This was the question we received this week in our inbox and I immediately responded with ‘Good question’ and proceeded to answer as clearly and concisely as possible. But it got me thinking. What would I recommend for a first time visitor unsure of what to buy given what I know now?

Lingerie evokes different emotional responses depending upon mood, timing and circumstances. Guys that are interested in lingerie can’t help but take a furtive glance at the lingerie store window displays and quickly scan the interior. Within moments those guys have identified 3 styles they really want to look at a little closer and immediately discarded any interest in all other styles. All while engaging in conversation with their significant other who hasn’t the slightest idea of what he’s actually thinking about.

It evokes a feeling in guys that is difficult to describe. Not necessarily sexual, more like an addiction, or an itch that needs to be scratched from time to time.

And that’s what we sell here at HommeMystere. It’s the feeling you get from the time you see the garments online to the time your order arrives and you’re trying on your new underwear. It’s the feeling of purchasing something still not socially acceptable. Perhaps your wife/partner doesn’t know and you get that scary yet exciting feeling of doing it anyway and to hell with the consequences if she/he finds out. It’s the feeling of buyers regret when your order is in transit and you have to be the one to check the mail the day it arrives. Then it arrives and you can’t wait to try it on, all the time feeling a range of emotions from excitement, to guilt, fear of discovery, followed by elation. You feel great and just for a moment you don’t care what anyone thinks and nor should you.

So back to the question. What would I recommend. Why do you like lingerie? What’s the initial attraction for you? Is the lingerie for you or your partner? Knowing what I know about our lingerie, here are my thoughts in a particular scenario.

Let’s assume you’re the wife/partner of a guy that likes wearing lingerie. You know about it but struggle to accept it (that’s a hole new blog post for later!) You want to support your partner without encouraging him too much because you’re still unsure yourself.

Start with briefs/panties/thong

I would pick something from the panties or G-Strings styles only for a start. Unless you know he’s into bras and teddies, stick with the basics and learn from that. If we have something in the Sale section in his size then I’d start there. It helps if you have an idea of what he likes (panty/G-String/high cut) but if you don’t I would start with the Annabelle or Nikita panty. Both are my personal day today regular wear undies and they are great. Both are a similar design with full stretch mesh bum, lightweight full fabric front and lace highlights. There’s enough to ensure he knows he’s wearing something special without going too far and they fit all sizes. If they are too colorful for you I would choose the Molly or Ava which are available in black. Very subtle, understated but both are made from lightweight fabric and mesh and are just a genuinely comfortable garment to wear. Again, both are in my personal drawer on high rotation. And finally for a first time order I would choose the Britney. It’s a replica of our original Frill pattern (no longer available) and has a fabric bum instead of the mesh and is just a nice pair of briefs to wear. The little frill edge and the tiny white dotted fabric add that little extra feeling you get just know you’re wearing something a little fun under your outerwear.

Those are my choices for newbies just looking for something low key to try. In my next blog I’ll talk about which direction I would take from here if you wanted to explore a little more.

Bras and Lingerie

Want to explore a little more? If you are thinking of getting a little more daring and looking at bras I would recommend starting with soft cup bras. These are figure fitting garments that lay nicely across the body and not noticeable under outerwear.

I would recommend something like the Heart, Annabelle, Nikita, Retro, Blossom or Alita. Each of these bras are comfortable to wear and give the feeling of wearing something a little different! You can step it up a little further with the Roxy or Coco bra with both having a wider strap and therefore a tighter feeling around the chest.

If you’re somewhat experienced with lingerie and prefer a bra that can easily hold inserts of whatever kind you like, then I recommend trying an underwire bra. For the budget conscious, I would choose the Chloe bra and if that suits then you can move onto almost any underwire bra in our collection with the main difference being the fabric color and the fabric/lace ratio differences in the cup.

If you like the idea of wearing something to match your briefs, then I would choose the Cleo or Yumi Tank Tops. They are stretchy fitted tops that provide a nice feel without having to think about shoulder straps, clasps or wires. Perfect loungewear.

Like the idea of lingerie? Well be quick because we are currently selling out of our lingerie to concentrate on panties, thongs and bras. Lingerie in the form of teddies and mini skirts are amazing, but expensive to produce and slow to sell. It’s unfortunate, but a bonus for you if that’s something you desire as we’ve just started a sale with the intention to move all our lingerie to make room for new stock!

It’s difficult to go wrong with lingerie and it all comes down to your own personal preference. For me, I think the Lara is the most comfortable and absolutely the most flattering of all. And unisex! Like many of our garments, looks great on women that like may like to crossdress in our lingerie.

Carmen is great for sleepwear, Nikita and Frida and just nice to wear, go for Sophia if you like the thong back which many do because this style does sell fast! Nadia for that slippery smooth feeling we all love and it feels super secure with the crossover straps. Want to feel wrapped in pure luxury? Emma. Emma is a slightly heavier garment, crazy beautiful and currently selling below cost. And we are fast running out of the XL so if that’s your size jump in quick.

If you want to do some fun dressing up then pick any of the mini skirts. Ginger, Cherry and Cloe are all fun though Alita and Hannah sets provide the full look with bra and panties.

Juliette Chemise is a favorite, particularly when worn with the bra and panties though you won’t see this one on sale due to its popularity.

So if you like lingerie, buy on sale now as we won’t be revisiting these styles again!